7 Steps to Find Out What's in Your Silence!

Silence... that's the word that has been in my mind all this week. In silence you can find the answers you need, or maybe you'll find just a terrible silence. However, if you try to find a quite place and stay there all by your own, you may confront your own thoughts in a different ways if you pay attention to them. It's like they emerge without asking permission. It's like they have its own intelligent; and when they notice that you are observing them, they stop because the true You is in control. It sounds a little weird, but when you discover it, a new journey begins.

When you are in silence you can dream, visit other dimensions, travel in time and change your own memories as well. It's like a magic wand that you can use to be happier than the rest of the world. Everybody have this kind of experience when they are sleeping and that's why we need to sleep, to stay in silent to find our inner self. Sometimes people don't remember its own dreams, but when they start to be connected with themselves, they start to remember and the effect is marvellous. The silent is not external, and you'll know it after doing this exercise.

Practical Exercises to Discover What's in your Silence: 

1. Find a quiet place where you can sit down without being interrupted for 15 minutes.

2. Relax and breath profoundly for a few seconds trying to feel your own body and life.

3. Put pen to paper and be ready to write any thought that appears while you're breathing.

4. Don't worry if you miss some thoughts. That's because you are in automatic thinking.

5. Write down any thought you can catch without judging yourself. (e.g. I need to wash the dishes. I need to study. I want to travel and run away from my problems. I don't want that situation in my life, etc) Stop when you notice that the thoughts start to repeat themselves.

6. Read the thoughts out loud and notice if some of them make you feel anxious. Are they really so important? If so, write the things you can do to stop worrying about them (set an alarm to complete your task could help). If not, write a new positive thought related to them (preferably add this new thoughts beside each sentence).

7. Keep the paper in a visible place and repeat the exercise weekly or monthly. That way you can check your own progress. It's important to control your thoughts and not the other way around. Otherwise you're gonna be haunted by them without knowing it. Also pay attention to the quantity. If you have more than 10 thoughts worrying you, it's probable that you're gonna be stressful all the day. Controlling your thoughts you'll be controlling the horse in your mind!




When I listen to my silent I can feel who I really am. But the more important of all is that I can see myself through others eyes; and I know that whether I like it or not... we are the same, one cosmic soul.

One dog, one silent master!

Google. A mini schnauzer master!

Google, that's the name of my dog, my first dog by the way. He's two years and two months old at the moment. We (my boyfriend and I) named him Google because we are keen on technology, but at the end, the name fit him completely. He's a searcher... The thing is that since he came to my life, a lot of things have changed (without counting the first month when he was sick due to the irresponsible care received from the people who sold him like he was a product; but I don't want to talk about those sad details). Now I have to get up earlier than before, give him food, entertainment... give him time and dedication. In one word, as my mother would say, it means "responsibility". I guess that's why she didn't allow me to have a pet in the house when I was a child. It was enough to take care of three girls at the same time. Anyway, this time I want to talk about the things Google have taught me in his silent and magic way.

10 LESSONS THAT A DOG CAN TEACH YOU!

1- Always be ready to have fun; take the opportunities that life gives you to be happy at any time without a particular reason!


2- Draw love and attention using your personality. Appearances don't matter so much. If people don't accept you, pay attention to the people who really matter after all.


3- Relax about your appearance; don't give a f^&*ck if others criticise you. If you have doubts about it, remember point 2.


4- Express your love and emotions to others; it doesn't matter what they could be thinking about it.



5- Remember that eyes speak more than words; use your own way to get what you want. Not being able to talk is not that bad!

6. Accept your reality when you can't do anything to change it, but stay in peace once you discover there's nothing else you can do.

7- Forget the past and start fresh; there's always a chance to forgive, but recognize if someone wants to hurt you and stay away from them.

8- Be alert all the time and protect yourself and your family from anyone or anything dangerous.

9- Stretch your body daily, sleep well, walk and run any time you can; it's healthy and it'll help you to be happy.

10- Be happy and grateful for the little things that life give you. They could disappear at any time, so live the present, here and now.

I could keep going writing more points on this list, but I think that these 10 points are more than enough to start changing your life, at least mine for sure. Probably you already knew or notice all these things if you have a dog as well...

Google when he was a puppy (4 months)

I used to think that his life was unfair.  He can't do anything by his own. I mean he doesn't know what is happening out there. He doesn't have to worry about the money or his security but he could loose all at any time and he doesn't know that. He could've died in that horrible place he were when he was a puppy. We bought him and saved him. He really need us! How ever, I'm starting to think that he is lucky because he's not human; he doesn't have to live with judgements and stereotypes. That's why they teach us so much in their own way. For me, dogs are silent masters.

Do you live in your own dimension?

We all share the same planet, but I believe everyone has its own dimension, its own world, its own group of friends. I believe that each one choose the universe where they want to live. Even unconsciously, we attract and perpetuate the things we have around us by choosing them. For some reason, that particular choice teach us something, even if we complain about our reality all the time. If you're ready, you can change your dimension without notice it, like the old Mayan culture predicted it.

When you feel that something is wrong around you; that the people you meet is not the people you wish to have close to you, then you have to start making changes. If you don't want to make radical decisions about it, or make any change that move you from your comfort zone; whether you like it or not, you still need to be surrounded by that particular situation or relationship you don't want to.

Only you can change your life... and complaining about it is not gonna change anything, unless you shout at someone, in which case things could change and get worst. We are vibrating in a particular frequency, and the universe does its job putting us where we belong. I have heard of people saying that they decide to move out of their comfort zone to another house, city, country or even to get a new job; and a few or several years later when they came back to visit , things seem to be the exactly same as they were before; nothing had changed, everybody is doing the same routine, talking about the same topics... I believe that we need to keep moving out of our comfort zones, learning different things and expanding our experiences. Anyway, I also know that some people need to stay in their comfort zone. They are learning similar things over and over and over, but I'm sure that one day they are going to move out. I think that everybody is bound to grow up at some point and keep expanding their skills for a better purpose.

I believe that, because I'm connected with people very similar to me (even on internet!) sharing the same points of view and trying to be better through a spiritual path. I had to fight to move out of my comfort zone, but I'm glad I did it. Also, I have been having vivid dreams about life and other portals where I can fly, float and move things with my mind. I truly believe that the Mayan culture wasn't wrong about all the things they said... I think that they were just misunderstood. The change of dimension is individual, not massive.

If you've read me until the end, we may be sharing our own dimension or you're near to change yours...

Growing up and finding happiness!

I've been thinking about the verb (or phrasal verb like my teacher would say ) "Grow up"; perhaps because I'm gonna be 26 years old in about 3 months. So I was wondering if I've grown up enough until now.

According to thefreedictionary.com the word "Grow" refers to develop and reach maturity. Moreover, it says that to "Grow up" is to become an adult. However, I was questioning what does the word "adult" really mean? Well, I googled it and the first answer appeared on Wikipedia: "Biologically, an adult is a human being or other organism that has reached sexual maturity. In human context, the term adult additionally has meanings associated with social and legal concepts. In contrast to a "minor", a legal adult is a person who has attained the age of majority and is therefore regarded as independent, self-sufficient, and responsible."

All that information made realize that biologically and legally speaking, of course I'm an adult. However, have I reach maturity? Well, I checked the concept and this was the answer: "In psychology, maturity is the ability to respond to the environment in an appropriate manner. This response is generally learned rather than instinctive. Maturity also encompasses being aware of the correct time and place to behave and knowing when to act, according to the circumstances and the culture of the society one lives in."

After reading these concepts, I think that "Growing up" is a process that you pass through day by day; and there´s not a particular age to reach real maturity. In fact I've known "old people" who are completely immature.

I guess that I'm still in the process of growing up, specially taking in consideration this part: "Being aware of the correct time and place to behave and knowing when to act" I know that the definition is incomplete, of course. However, it made me realize that "Growing up" implies to behave in the best way. For me, that means that  if you want to reach a better purpose, you need to let go the "bad" things you've done before or the ones you want to continue doing; but I also know that sometimes is difficult to choose sides (the concept of good and bad is up to you). I guess we have to fight for it, although that could be a battle against our own feelings and basic instincts.

It is also important to be awake, because sometimes we want to be happy only if our family or friends behave in a particular way; or if they give us exactly what we want to receive (even if it's something that it's not possible or it's part of our egoistic desires). We are so close-minded and sometimes so blind, that we want to fulfil our needs through a relationship (any kind), like it was a food service; when we really need to find happiness and love through ourselves. I believe that's the job we have to do to finally "Grow up"; and when we accomplish it, we only need to teach others how to do the same.

I have a lot of work to do now... Growing up is a hard but rewarding work I suppose!

<This post was written thinking about my future children and family> 



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