Why You Shouldn't Help Only Your "Good" Friends?

Everybody have or have had friends... When you're a child you start making friends without realizing it. The social contact is something almost unstoppable. You need to interact with others in a way that you can learn from them and teach them as well. It's good to have someone else with who you can share things about this phenomenon that we all have in common: Life.

Your parents and relatives are your first friends; you don't have other option neither. Still, they are really important in your social and personal life. Moreover, they are gonna be like that forever. So, you have to get use to it. However, what about your other friends? Do you feel that you have real friends or just acquaintances? Do you think that friends are circumstantial only? Do you believe in truly friendship between a woman and a man without involve any romantic or sexual aspect? What do you think friendship is? Would you be friend of someone that doesn't help you? Does friendship has to be mutual? Is friendship really for free or you have to pay in some way for it?

It seems that every relationship, including friendships, need to have two cooperatives parts. Perhaps a truly friend would be willing to help you at any time if you are willing to help him or her. After all you're friends, you support each other always, don't you? A good friend always make you feel good or listen to your problems without judging; and even when you loose contact with them, or your relationship is not the same, you'll always remember them with happiness; all the things you two did together, besides all that learning, no matter what happens, it's gonna be with you forever... Beautiful isn't it?

Well, I was thinking about it and it's interesting why we don't do the same for people that is not willing to help us, or people that don't know us, or perhaps people that have hurt us... My question is Why? Is it necessary to do something good only for our friends because someday they are gonna be "good" enough to pay us back? It scares me...

Matthew 4:55 Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven; for He causes His sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.

That doesn't mean that make friends is a egotistic thing; perhaps it's just an agreement of mutual support between similar people helping each other (without any contract terms). Anyway, having friends is a responsibility, whether we like it or not. We need to be there for them and do everything we can without any excuse. We have to be happy to help always!

On the contrary, you can help your "enemies" without being their friends, you can spread love to everyone without feeling responsible of anything. It's a free way to help others without even knowing them.  An you know what? you don't need to expect that they help you in the future, but perhaps they'll do it anyway. I guess that's something we can't change about our specie.

Paddy's Festival 2014 - Dublin, Ireland

This weekend was the Paddy's Festival in Dublin, and because it was my first experience celebrating it, I couldn't write my sacred weekly post :( Anyway, have a look at the parade at least! 

 See you next week with new words (I hope)...

Meanwhile, read my other old posts, maybe you haven't read them all! 

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Is there a creator? Scientists talk about it... (with M. Freeman)

Everything has a divine order. The magic of life is unbelievable but legitimate. All the things are perfectly connected like it was a miracle. The harmony of life is undeniable and beautiful. Your life is a perfect match of chromosomes in action. Scientists haven´t discovered the true nature of life in this world. There are several theories and investigations about time, the beginning of our world and human life itself. They are trying to understand what could be the cause of our existence as we know it. Is it possible to really know?

Today I want to share with you a documentary (TV show) that presents all the doubts and answers that science has related to life and even the existence of God. Don't miss this opportunity and watch the video now!

 

Do you really need to be loved by others?

I wasn't sure about what I was going to write today... until a few hours ago.

Love! I don't want to talk about that kind of romantic and passionate love that almost everyone dream about (including me). Perhaps I do, but in a different way. I want to talk about the love that we feel for ourselves; and I know that this subject could sound a little bit boring for some people. However, thanks to this kind of love you can discover a whole new world full of opportunities. When you love yourself, you don't have to expect love or any kind of actions from others in the name of love, not even from your partner. I mean, you should expect respect and kindness, but never depend on another person to be loved. You can love yourself first and discover that when you're not expecting anything from others, you can be gladly surprised when you receive something special from them (including love). Isn't that amazing? I believe so!

Now, discover if you love yourself as you should. Answer to the 5 next questions:

1- Do you say or think honest and kind things about you in front of the mirror?
2- Do you eat healthy food and do exercise regularly thinking that your body is the vehicle of your soul and that you have to take good care of it because of that?
3- Do you feel good with yourself even when someone say nasty things about you without any justifiable reason?
4- Do you give you the things you need to be loved? Like flowers, toys, delicious dinners with candles around or little details to yourself, without telling anyone?
5- Do you dance alone listening to your favourite music and feeling grateful for your life?

If you answered Yes  to more than 3 options then Congratulations! You love yourself or you're starting to do it. Keep going and complete your own list. Now, if you answered No to more than 3 options then you need to start paying attention to your self-esteem. It's important to love yourself to receive the love of others without suffering. Don't feel sad and start right now! You have 5 exercises to change your life from now on.

I hope you have enjoyed my writing. It would be amazing if you share it with people who you think could need to read it as well. I wish you all the best in your new path of true love.